Good way to deal with ex-husband, around son?

My ex is lazy, selfish %26amp; looks for ways to not see his son. Any suggestion on how to deal with him?Good way to deal with ex-husband, around son?
He's your ex. You should just back off. If he doesn't want a relationship with his son, that's his call. You should point out to him that this is the choice that he's making, but unless he's being absurdly dense, he'll get it. Impress upon him that he needs to think about what's best for your son.Good way to deal with ex-husband, around son?
if i were you id talk to my son and get his point aview find out how he feels about the matter you can learn so much from your son it may help you out and if you have to get a court order to were he has to pick him up on the weekends and if he don't then take him back to court they'll do something about it i wish the best of luck for you and your son.
Don't cover for him, let him disappoint your son. Just be the kid's shoulder and let him figure out who/what his father is.





He may come and ask you what you were thinking someday!
Speak to him with calm in your voice. Voice your opinion without raising your voice (even a notch), suggest some things that he could do with his son that could make the time they spent togeather memorable and fun, like a fishing trip (he can still be lazy that way) I would just suggest things to him instead of making him feel that he 'must' do things, give him the option. Have you thought about asking your son to communicate with him instead of going through you? Never yell and scream in front of your son - there will be tension between all 3 of you that way. I'm sure you'll already know this but in case you havent been able to put it into practice - Dont talk to your son about your ex, if you dont have anything good to say about him. Do your best, any topic that has issues between two men can be a difficult one.
I have dealt with the same thing. It is a hard situation for a child to be in. You need to ask him strait up if he wants to be in your son's life. If his answer is yes tell him he needs to step up and explain that his son needs to have his father in his life. If not, don't push it.... it is hard on children whose fathers (or mothers) always has excuses not to be with them. You need to do what is best for your son.
Talk to your ex.


Tell him that it is not about you or him but it is about your son's emotional well being


and that you will not allow him to continue to ignore your son.


what you do with your son


depends on how old your son is.


If he is younger than lets say ten (varies depending upon his emotional maturity) then dont tell your son the next time 'daddy' makes a plan to come see him. YOu can control the calls in and out and you should.


The rules are that daddy has to tell you ONLY when he is coming, then you tell your son when daddy is on his way.


Have daddy call when he is on his way.


I know it breaks your heart but dont let him know what an *** his dad is.


It will do nothing for your son's self esteem and it might make him feel that there is something wrong with him.





If he is over 10. Tell your son the truth.


Dad said he was coming but didnt show (AGAIN).


It is not your fault, and this is not about you, it is about him.


you might even add that this is why you and he are not together.


Tell him that you love him very much and that you are very sorry about these things.


Get your son into counseling so that they can help him get over his feelings of abandonment!
Your ex acts like a child still too?! I just calmly talk to him in front of our son. Later when the little guy goes to bed I will call my ex and yell at him if its necessary. I would never do it in front of my son. Just like no matter how much of a loser his dad is I will never ever say a negative word about him in front of my son. He will realize when he grows up how crappy his dad has been.